Three Rules for a Better Bar or Bat Mitzvah
By Mark Oppenheimer for Tablet Magazine
Jews do the milestone event all wrong. Here’s a quick, and meaningful, fix.
About a dozen years ago, I traveled across the country crashing bar and bat mitzvahs, from Arkansas to Alaska. I sneaked into one swank New York City bar mitzvah party by posing as a security guard. I stealthily trailed a deluxe coach in my station wagon to figure out where the 13-year-olds were going for the after-party. I got mistaken for one of the hired dancers. I ate a lot of free finger food. It was all research for my book Thirteen and a Day: The Bar and Bat Mitzvah Across America. In the end, despite all the pop-culture ridicule that the bar and bat mitzvah come in for, the TV and movie depictions of bitchy, prematurely mature adolescents at lavish parties (e.g. in Sex and the City, The Apprenticeship of Duddy Kravitz, and many more), I argued that bar and bat mitzvah ceremonies—despite not being in the Torah, not being required, and being widely derided—are valuable coming-of-age ceremonies, and there’s a good reason that Jews who do almost nothing else Jewish nonetheless think that maybe their children should do this crazy thing.
College Students Want (and Need) Critical Discourse About Israel
By Joshua Ladon on eJewishPhilanthropy
I spent winter break week with 125 college students and campus professionals from more than 20 American universities who came to the Shalom Hartman Institute in Jerusalem to study during their winter vacation, rather than spend it on a beach or at a ski resort.
The learning focused on building participants’ vocabulary for speaking about Israel through the language of values. We aim to build students’ capacity to speak about Israel as a reflection of Jewish possibility. Many of the students attend schools featured on the recent Algemeiner.com list of the 40 worst colleges for Jews, and they expressed frustration over the emphasis on anti-Semitism, upon which the list relied. The students challenged back, as others have, and said that their schools’ vibrant Jewish communities have been unfairly characterized.
WATCH: Why This Twilight Zone Episode Is More Timely Than Ever
By Jake Romm for The Forward
"The tools of conquest do not necessarily come with bombs and explosions and fallout. There are weapons that are simply thoughts, attitudes, prejudices to be found only in the minds of men. For the record, prejudices can kill, and suspicion can destroy, and a thoughtless frightened search for a scapegoat has a fallout all of its own for the children, and the children yet unborn. And the pity of it is that these things cannot be confined to the Twilight Zone.”
Beauty Queens, Masks and Jewish Teens
From Moving Traditions
Every year at Purim, we tell the tale of a Jewish teenage girl who ascends to the throne of the Persian Empire by pretending not to be Jewish.
This year, Rabbi Sara Brandes looks at Megillat Esther (the Scroll of Esther) and a TED Talk by model Cameron Russell, and describes how in our programs Moving Traditions relates Purim to the two most pressing questions for teens:
“How should I act if I want to be accepted by my peers?”
“When can I stop acting that way and reveal who I truly am?”
In Persia’s capitol city, Esther must hide her true identity — that she is a Jewish girl named Hadassah — behind the mask of a beauty queen. When she arrives at the palace, Esther only does what Haggai, the guardian of the concubines, tells her to do. She bathes for six months in oil and six months in spices, and learns to paint herself with cosmetics. She changes to conform to the beauty standard of her day.
Visit colleges around the world without leaving home
by Ilana Strauss for FromtheGrapevine
You Visit offers 3D and virtual reality campus tours for students.
With college on the horizon, high school seniors might be thinking about attending a school far from home. Luckily, you don't have to go to a campus to see it anymore. Online college tours have been gaining popularity for years, and they're finally starting to come into their own, thanks to virtual reality.
A new site appropriately named You Visit offers virtual college tours with both virtual reality and 360-degree tours of various college campuses around the world, from the U.S. to England to Israel.
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Welcome to the Dix Hills Jewish Center, a Conservative Congregation, celebrating 49 years as a beacon of dynamic Judaism in Dix Hills. We are a traditional egalitarian synagogue committed to the reality that all Jews are full partners in the beauty of Jewish life and that all Jews are given an equal role in all rituals. The Dix Hills Jewish Center is an engaging, vibrant congregation. We are excited about the growth in our synagogue, and the wonderful growth of the Jewish community of Dix Hills, Commack and the neighboring communities. We are a community committed to learning, to supporting each other, and to being a warm and welcoming place for all who participate. Welcome to the Dix Hills Jewish Center.
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An Aliyah for YOU
Whether you are 20 or 120, or anything in between, we would like to honor you on the anniversary of your bar or bat mitzvah. Please send the date of your bar/bat mitzvah or the name of your parsha to Lee Grebstein [email protected]
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